Sir,
Being a student of journalism, I always want to know what are the things happening in the country and around the world. Many weird or new things happen on a daily basis, all the new things seem weird at a time to people once it becomes trend and people start following, it becomes normal.
But it was 2nd of June when I found a news that a lady named Kshama in India is going to marry herself.
Pardon me? Marriage only Bride, no Groom? Are you marrying yourself?
Yes.
Probably this was the reaction of the people who heard this decision taken by Kshama Bindu.
“Ever since my teens, I never wanted to get married. The tradition, somehow never appealed to me, but I did want to become a bride, so I decided to marry myself.”
A 24 year old lady from Gujarat’s Vadodara city has announced her marriage with no one but herself. Kshama Bindu is all set to be the first Indian lady for sologamy on 11 June 2022.
She has written five vows for her wedding that will be held at a temple. She is also set to go on a two-week honeymoon to Goa. So it will be no different from other marriages just one small/minor difference is that; there will be no groom. Her parents are happy with her decision and also given her blessings.
But one thing that i don’t understand what difference will it make by marrying herself? Why would they do so? Will it be something different from being single? For sure one difference will be created through this action, that earlier she was not popular but now everyone will know her.
The lady stated that “People marry someone they love. I love myself and hence this wedding, maybe I am the first to set an example of self-love in our country.”
Well who doesn’t have self love? Should all people start marrying themselves?
I was really curious to know what is this, so I did a research and found that; Act of marrying oneself in the presence of some people in a ceremony is called SOLOGAMY, The intention behind this kind of marriage is most of the time to express one’s self love and the love with their existence.
The first publicized solo marriage (known as sologamy) was an American woman named Linda Baker a dental hygienist from the US, in 1993. Three years later, NBA star Dennis Rodman donned a veil and dress and married himself. And a wave of single-yet-wedded brides (and the occasional groom) have followed. A sologamy divorce was reported last year when a Brazilian model, Cris Galera fall in love with someone else and decided to end her sologamy just after 90 days of the marriage. Now what is the meaning of this divorce; that her love for herself was over? Does she no longer have self love?
Well I think people should not criticize someone for their actions, but i wonder if it will create any difference from what the person was earlier, except the limelight and popularity. The money they spend on these kinds of exercises can be used for people who want to marry but are not able to bear the expenses, people who are below the poverty line.
Anyway best wishes and congratulations to Kshama Bindu on becoming the first one to start the trend of sologamy in India.
This marriage, of course, has no legal recognition in India.
Yours Truly,
Harshit Paul, 4 Sem BMC, SXCMT, Patna-800011
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Committed to one’s self. But marriage is a legal way of deciding things like property, inheritance and so on.
Quite difficult to wrap my head around the practical aspect of this sologamy
Maybe It may appear good but still I don’t like this concept. Are not we binding ourselves to a marriage and making others feel that we are married?
In future, if someone will say that don’t want to marry, there parents will either force them as they will think that maybe their child has some defect or They will say them to perform sologamy. People need to understand the meaning of freedom. There is not need of marriage if you truly love yourself. Life is yours and you have right to live as you want but doing something like this….I don’t think it right?